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love advice [20 Jul 2006|11:24pm]

ok so i need some advice

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love advice [20 Jul 2006|11:24pm]

ok so i need some advice

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[16 Mar 2006|10:34pm]

Okay, I have a little bit of a family problem. My uncle has been a major jerk. Ever since my grandmother died around three years ago, my uncle who has been unmarried, has been with his girlfriend since then. I don't know how to deal. (For many reasons, I ended up with my grandparents, aunt and uncle, they all lived together till my grandma died, now its just us.) But when he does stay at our house instead of his GF's house, he is really rude to me. Tonight, about an hour ago, he was saying some mean things to my grandpa like: "You don't apprciate me, you're so opinionated, you've always been that way and nothing will change that. I do so much for you." Obviously, I knew this wasn't true; but of course, he won't admit it, my grandpa listens to his shit. So I speak up, tellhim to be quiet and leave my grandpa alone and he gets his butt up his arse and goes "Shut up this is between me and him". My grandpa gets sick if he gets stressed out, so that was why I intervened.
Blah, and still he hasn't shut up,

What can I do to deal with him and his foul temper?

Just because I told him to stop and leave my grandpa alone, he says I'm weird, nuts, and other things.

What can I do?
I used to get along with him, but eve since my grandma passed away the only time he talks to me are when:
1.) he tells me to walk lightly on the floor because he lives on the basement
2.) When I get pissed off he buts his head into my buisness
3.)To complain and fight with me whenever a time arises and we disagree.

Help please?
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Happy as a Clam [22 Jan 2006|07:27pm]

[ mood | okay ]

Well Last night i had an amazing night with this kid i like and he likes me but idk it confuses me we had a great time like we made out on my coach like i had a connection but what makes me think even more is that idk . He said he can ask me out like he's affriad things will change. Like he has a feeling . And i really like him and he likes me . We act like were going out so i dont' understand? Is this a bad thing? What should i do? i really need some advice on this one please. I really like him and i know he likes me.

Thanks if u helped.


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[15 Oct 2005|10:57am]

Hi everyone again!
- It's been a long time since I've written and asked for advice. Last time I was livejournal and recieved a bunch of replies was back beginning of August. I just want to thank everyone for taking time and writing their comment and advices for me. they truly helped! xoxox!

But there's another delimma. I'm not going to make one of the 'longest' post that someone has seen so im going to try and make it short as possible. I'm the girl that posted about being with her boyfriend for two years and got back together in the summer and he heard rumors that I slept around and cheated on him and he didnt believe me and said some hurtful things to me that I tried to commit suicide and ended up having to seek help. Well he just completely stopped talking to me and we havent spoken or seen each other in over 2 1/2 months. Well now he started to contact me, and tried to talk and now he wants to get back together and realized he made a mistake and NOW realizes that I was telling the truth and did not cheat on him. I mean he told me it was a mistake to love me and a mistake to get back together in the summer and now he tells me he realized what he had when he lost me and never wants to lose me. He tells me how much he loves me and needs me... but he hurt me so badly that I dont know what love is that i dont know about caring and I dont know what to do. I love him and still care for him just indifferent wants. He thinks we're back together but I want to be with him but there's something that's holding me back. I mean he LEFT me, he didnt TRUST me, he couldnt even TALK to me about it just falt out accused me of cheating and stopped talking and put me through shit. I dont know if I need time to myself or to try and slowly get back together... Im scared of getting hurt and for him to lie and I dont know what to do! I guess you can from coming back to school and starting a new life without him and meeting new people and trying to move on helped and I became adjusted to it and out of the blue right when im getting my life back on track he starts talking to me,and it's like I'm not used to this that I'm being all thrown off... and starting to get all depressed about it. I need as much help as possible please! I dont need this anymore in my life I just want to be HAPPY! I hope you guys can help!

Thanks Guys! Love you LJ!

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WONDERING [24 Aug 2005|04:24pm]

this probably sounds like a really stupid question, and i kinda feel stupid asking it but im confused by it

i was told i was a "sex doll"

what the hell does that mean? im sure there is many different meanings to it but i just thought i'd ask your input
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[16 Aug 2005|12:23am]

I no longer know what to do. I've been with this guy for two years, dating pretty seriously. We met our senior year of high school things were going really well...Then we went off to College, separate colleges 3 hours apart from one another. We've been this strong dependency on each other where we would visit one another on the weekends. We loved each other so much but arguments started... The long distances were really hard. I felt depressed and would cut myself it was hard and at times I'd fly back home to be with family because I was so homesick. Anyway... we fought and fought over the stupidest things. I then transfered to the school where my boyfriend was. I did not go there because he was there.... I actually was accepted there 1st semester but didnt want to go to the same school because I felt that there would be wayy too much dependency but I transfered to get into this program that I wanted to study. January when I first arrived things were a little cold towards one another had arguments here and there, but we had our good days. It just seems as though once we left home things started to fall apart. I mean dont get me wrong, the relationship we had was healthy. So febuary came around and things just got worse and worse and we became distant. He was upset that I was making more friends than him and I had only been there for one month. As a side note, 1st semester I did not go out at all to show that he can trust me you know... anyway so we started to do our own things. As Febuary came to an end we decided to take a break because the arguments just got worse and worse... So we hardly spoke it was really sad and upseting because he was my best friend.... I started to go and meet new people, try and make new friends it was hard because alot of the times I did not want to go out because he was always on my mind and I wanted to be with him. I guess by me not going out as much 1st smester I needed to get my energy out. He was ready to settle and I wasnt I mean dont get me wrong 18 years old I want to go out and have some fun first you know. He admitted later on he was controlling a bit but also on my part I wasnt thinking of his feelings in which I should have. Anyway... So I had a bad experience in the past 2 years ago where ever since I've had big issues being alone with a guy. So I've always had this (i know im a dork but w.e) buddy system thing with a close friend that we'd stick together no matter what... so when a guy wanted to hang out I'd always ask to hangout as a group and I'd bring a few friends along, so what if I didnt get to know the guy one on one but at the same time, I felt more comfortable around people I knew and trusted. I kissed a guy at the end of the school year but it meant nothing at all.. I wasnt looking for a relationsihp and he commented that the kiss we had felt like his 5 year old cousin would kiss him goodbye... I was like uhhhhhh ok?!?!?! lol messed up but whatever it meant nothing. Through all this time it was hard because I kept thinking about my ex. There's a reason as well why he broke up with me. When I was at a kegger I was with friends and we were all just joking around and a friend and I for a silly reason gave the "peck" face but later on in the pic looking at it looks like we were kissing and I guess it was bad... and my boyfriend didnt know what to think and it was understandble... and he wouldnt want to talk to me... I mean my friend that was in the picture with me is gay.... so I dunno... anyway.... So summer arrived and we havent really spoken or seen each other... we lost touch or I guess you can say cut communicating for about a good month... and started to talk it was hard at first being 'just' friends but it was nice to see him than not seeing him at all. Beginning of June, I had mentioned to him that I was sick from the pregnancy I had with him a year 1/2 ago... I dunno if it was out of pitty or because he really wanted to at first but started to hang out... later on I knew it's because he wanted to. Anyway, he held a get together where he drank ALOT with his friends and did his own thing, he thought that this get together would help me be a little happier and not to think much of the worst that could happen... so I got to see my friends and I was happy. Anyway so he got really really drunk pretty much close to alcohol poisining, everyone left to go to a party and I ended up staying at taking care of him. Yes, we were only friends and I didnt have to stay and I could have gone to the party with my friends but I loved him and still cared and I mean if I were in that position I knew he would do the same for me...so I made sure he was still breathing and he was alright. I would check up on him almost every 10 minutes... I didnt get much sleep but i was worried. The next morning he didnt remember anything so I had to tell him the entire story... since that night it was like we became closer as friends... still hard being 'just' friends but it was nice... Later on, two weeks, I wrote him this note, because earlier in the summer he wanted to know how I felt and I didnt have the right words really so I told him I would let him know when I knew what I wanted to say... and I wrote him this letter with a card and it's like he rejected me, I was so upset and devistated but we started talking and ended up hanging out the rest of the night and we ended up sleeping together... and since then we started to fool around we didnt know what was going on, sort of confusing, it felt right at times and it felt wrong at times but we still loved each other and missed each other. We'd hangout everyday without the affection towards one another it was nice. As July came along I went to Canada for vacation for 2 weeks.... we tried to keep in touch as much but the long distance was hard because I had family things to deal with and he was working everyday. When I came back a couple days after I came back, we went out for dinner and a movie. We talked alot about our past relationship with one another and questioned how things would be. We truly opened up at dinner and at times I wanted to cry but I managed to hold it all in. Later on that evening as we were getting ready to see a movie, he asked me "why dont we give it another shot" and I was happy but surprised at the same time to hear him as that. I was not sure if I wanted to because we did argue alot in the past and was really hurt and I didnt want to get hurt again and he said that if it didnt work out we'd promise each other to remain best friends and still be there for each other.... so I said alright... it was weird to go back again to dating the holding hands and affection it was weird but took time to adapt to. So things were going well... we agreed that the relationship would only work if there was trust and communication so we started to communicate more. If something was wrrong we'd talk about it and we did. It's like we became closer in a way and I was somewhat starting to get happy or feel what happy was like. It was like a natural high... anyway... Beginning of August his friend from school Mike, came down to visit him... and I dont really like the kid because I felt like he was a bad influence on my boyfriend but I didnt know him much so I gave it another chance to get to know him. So my bf had a last get together on a friday and alot of people showed up... we drank alot and caught up with friends it was nice... but my boyfriend didnt talk to me as much and I guess it was understandble bc there were guests but it bothered me because he'd have his hand around my friend and talked to her face pretty close... it was as though he were talking to her more than me... and I guess it was a form of jealousy but Im sure he wouldnt like it if I were like that to a guy that close to his face... anyway I got sick later on in the night and almost passed out outside.. he didnt care to see how I was and it hurt because earlier in the summer I was there for him.. and he got all upset.. an yway I tried to talk about it in the morning and he'd deny it but w.e he apologies so I was like hm ok he does care ok. Saturday night he went to his dad's house with his friend and mentioned to me that he wanted to hang out, so I invited him and his friend over and to ask other people to come but he told me they were too tired and wanted to stay at his dad's. Later on I find out they went out I just wish he was honest... We planned to go to the beach monday and tuesday so we tried to plan it out sunday night... on the phone he was cold and bitter... when I wasnt done talking he thought I was done and yelled out "BYE" and I asked if I could finish and he yelled "hurry the fuck up" and he's never like that he's always sweet and kind.. so I didnt knwo what was going on. He then avoided me for several days... I find out from a friend that my bf was avoiding me because "I slept around at school, and cheated on him" It hurt that people would say such a thing because I'm honestly not like that. I've NEVER EVER EVER cheated on him. I believe no person deserves that at all to be cheated on. and a cheater has no self dignity or respect for people. Yes I will agree that we've lied towards one another but I would never lie in a way that would hurt the relationship. I dont understand! Yes I did kiss a guy but that was when we broke up. I mean he kissed a girl in september when we were TOGETHER and told me in April... he asked me if I did anything with a guy and I should have flat out told him about kissing a guy but I didnt think it was that big... i still should have been open about it. I do remember when I came back from school I spoke to a few girls... and they thought I'd move on fast from him so I didnt want to seem like wuss or like a dependent freak on him so I made up crap that I moved on from him and got with all these guys... but I never thought that would get back to him... I mean one of my friends she even commented what a bad liar I was and knew by just looking at me that I loved my bf too much to do that... and it was silly and stupid for me to do but I just hate it when people make fun of me... and it didnt cross my mind and I should have told him but I didnt think it mattered. I mean he knows my past and he knows that I get uncomfortable around guys alone. I wouldnt be in a room alone with a guy I didnt know or a guys he didnt know like my guys friends from home I was fine because I really knew them... but he doesnt believe me.. and I dont blame him I mean people will believe the worst. If I cheated on him while we were together, why would I be around all the argument why would I stick around to try and fix it, why would i cry every night wanting to fix things with him? He yelled at me saying that he didnt hate me but I feel like he does. He told me I was a mistake everything was a mistake getting back together and loving me was a mistake. It hurts sooo much to wake up everyday and know that everything was a mistake to him.... I mean god I should have been honest with my girlfriends... I just dont know what to do... I wrote him a letter explaining everything but he prob thinks that Im just lying and I dont know what to do... and this is where I'm asking for your advice... I never cheated on him. I did so much and went out of my way for him why would I cheat on someone I love that's what I dont get?!?!?! WHAT DO I DO!?!?! i feel like he's not going to talk to me anymore... and he hasnt. We go to the same university just live like 2 minutes away... we weont have internet or a phone right when we get there bc we will be living in a new house separate houses... do I give him his space not communicating and then stop by his place and tyr to talk to him? or let him come to me?! it's not even that i just really want to make him see that I am telling the truth... I feel like im in a movie where a crime as been committed and i'm on death row for it and I didnt even commit the crime you know... I've been crying everyday straight had no motivation on going out and became suicidal... i feel like I have nothing to live for... and i havent done anything stupid because I keep hoping the next day that he will realize the truth and speak to me.. but I dont even know if he read my email that i wrote to him or not. I NEED YOUR HELP because im starting to become depressed and I've almost done stupid things that I'm getting sent away for help before school and I just need ur help on giving me advice on what to do. He's my life, my sanity! I used to cut and was depressed but he helped me stop and he taught me what love was and he was my best friend and it's like a huge part of me is missing... please help... - as many people as possible would be nice to hear just to see what you guys say I would truly appreciate it.... as you can see I am truly upset... and falling into a depression over something stupid I did... from now I im sticking to the truth and not making up stuff just to try and make myself feel better... and to be honest no matter how much people will make fun of me... it was a mistake and he's never going to believe me. I just hope that one day he realizes that I was telling the truth.... I pray.
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[04 Jan 2005|04:14pm]
Ok, I have a question for a friend, who doesnt know I'm asking a question for him-- Heres the situation. Its very confusing!!! Please reply!
  • I have a boyfriend, and I'm having huge problem.
  • My friend Erich is always there to help me with it.
  • We both like each other ALOT!
  • He'll be driving down to me at his birthday!
  • His x is so terrible to him. He spent 450$ on her for xmas, she broke up with him 3 nights before xmas i think.
  • She messes with his head so much.
  • He'd give her everything, and tries, but she hurts him over and over again.
  • If only he could find a girl that wouldn't hurt him like her, even though there is one right infront of him..
  • But she has her own problems/ boyfriend-- which might not be for long.
  • I dunno what to do to help him, or to become closer to him.
  • We can talk about anything, and then joke around with out it feeling weird.
Please help!
x0x0 r0byn
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[28 Dec 2004|12:08am]

hey well i'm new here; & i was wondering if anyone could help me with this problem =/

I met this kid named Justin at one of our dances through my school, after that he got my screenname from his cousin which goes to my school, we talked online and all that, & also hung out here n there .. i started to like him more every time i talked/hung out with him .. then he finally asked me out and i said yes [ obviously ] but about after a week i broke it off only b/c i never saw/talked with him..see b/c he is the veryy shy kind of type & it just wasnt working for me..plus we go to 2 different schools i'm at an all girl school & he is at an all guy school..[ so i have nothing to worry about ] but after we broke it off bout 2 weeks later we started talking again, and i found myself still having feelings for him..but the other night..the night before xmas eve he told one of my friends that he wanted to "hook" up with other girls he was just worried that i would get mad & he also told her not to tell me. she did tell me b/c we are very close friends..& i got really upset and we started to argue online & he was saying things like " well i never actually hooked up or will hook up with any girl b/c i didn't/dont want you to get mad and i CARE for you.." & i just thought that was complete b.s b/c if he cared he wouldnt say that .. am i just being selfish? or should he not of said that?

i'd really appreciate anyones advice.. <3
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[05 Sep 2004|02:51pm]

[ mood | confused ]

ok so i have this huge dilema.
Please, maybe someone can help out

a few weeks ago my gf dumped me. during the time we were apart i got closer to this other girl who was originally just a good friend. Well i still really love my gf and even while we were broken up we were still friends and talked on the phone all the time and she kept telling me she loved me and how she regretted breaking up with me. The last few months before she dumped me, i was really sad cause our relationship wasn't how it use to be, i felt unappreciated and taken for granted. But now shes even changed for the better, so that things between us could work out.....there was still the issue with the other girl though.

I'm now going back out with my gf BUT i don't really feel as strongly as i use to for her, and my feelings for the OTHER girl are growing (she feels the same way). I can totally see myself in the future with my gf living happily, but i actually get more excited to talk to the other girl than her. i get this real giddy feeling inside and it feels so good, and when i talk to my gf she makes me feel loved and stuff, but it just doesn't make me feel the way it use to.
i'm really confused about everything, i'm so conflicted. :(

I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. i know that if i dump my gf for the other girl she'll cry. i don't want to make her or anyone cry, i'd feel like utter shit.
please PLEASE can ANYONE give me some advice


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[17 Aug 2004|05:55pm]

[ mood | ecstatic ]

i am sooooo excited!!! i finally got the nerve (with the help of a lot of ppl) to tell the guy i like that i like him! yay...and umm he said that he likes me too :o) i am sooo excited, beyond belief!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont even know what else to say lol i have to work in the morning so i am g2g!!! but ill update another day!! oh btw, we are going out on saturday!! hehe

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[10 Aug 2004|09:05pm]

[ mood | crushed ]

i really like this guy. ive known him all my life. ive always had a chance to tell him how i feel about him but never did. now my feelings for him are really strong. i want to tell him so bad, but i am so scared and afraid of what might come out of it. i dont want to ruin our friendship but i dont want to sit here the rest of my life thinking what might have been. i came really close to telling him last week but it didnt seem like the right time to. ive never told any guy my feelings (im 18) so i really need help and advice er coaching lol. anyone with any advice please tell me!! you can IM me on my AIM sn monkymadnss04 or leave a note on here...thanks!

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please help! [03 Aug 2004|04:20pm]

[ mood | crushed ]

okay i will try my best to get it all out. here goes:

me and my ex broke up like 7 or 8 months ago now. it took him about a month to tell me why. which is he still in love with his ex who lives in the uk. also during this month he had just dissapered and still wont tell me where he went. so over teh next couple of months thngs still have been weird. he says he still loves me and only wants to do things with me, it just that he dont want a realastion ship because his ex screwed him up. so i say okay, i'll take whatever i can get. so bascily we became friends with benfits, but he says its more than that.

like a month or a little more ago one of his guy friend has been trying to get with me. i dont really want to but i miss having a guy in my life that is only there for me. he dont like this. he told me to stay away from him. which i try but this city is only so small.

so today his friend joined me and my friend for pizza and he was having his arm all around me which i dont really go for to being with. but his other friend was there too, so now i'm really worried that he might say somthing to him. which has happen before which wasnt true and he didnt believe me, cause he says he doesnt believe anyone. also the thing is that i got in to a fight with him last night on the phone. i really hate fighting with him cause he's like my best friend. so any advice on what i should do will be of great help!


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[31 May 2004|08:19pm]
[ mood | confused ]

ok, i know this is weird seeing as i just joined here, but i am having major guy trouble. i need advice! is it really an awful thing to be in like love with your best friends brother? i know its really strange, but i can't help it! and i have no clue what to do about it.. i know he likes me too, but is it worth risking my friend? or should she be there for me anyways? ahh, i'm soo confused! help~

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[17 Apr 2004|09:25pm]

hey im SaMii
i need some MAJOR advice.
but before i ask, im gonna tell the whole story behind it so you know what kinda advice to give me if you can help me..im sorry..but its a madd long story, please bare with me ^_^

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[21 Mar 2004|06:43am]

ok.. im going out with my best guy friend, just recently, and ive liked him for about 6 months. But my ex from a month ago wants me back, and i kind of miss him.. like i miss KISSING him for some reason ...

what the hell should i do ?

this is my entry in my journal about this..

man .. this is freakishly weird. But i kinda miss Fred? Like, I miss kissing him .. a lot .. i had a BIG convo with him about us.. the main points were that he still likes me, wants me to break up with Kevii ( which i wont ) and that when we break up, if ill come back to him.. i said yes.

SsmlFry424: i cant stand it

SsmlFry424: i like u SO MUCH....and i miss u SO MUCH.....im gonna like cry

SsmlFry424: now im afraid that im gonna like try and do something like with you..and ur with Kevin so I cant..but im like afraid that I might
SsmlFry424: but like I like u a lot and I cant just like stop
SsmlFry424: like when I see u its hard not to just kiss u
SsmlFry424: cuz I REALLY wanna be with you..but I cant

SsmlFry424: i COULDNT forget bout u
PinK DiCe 16: why not
SsmlFry424: idk
SsmlFry424: like when im in class..i even think bout u

and people are saying listen to your heart blah blah blah.. well, i derno what the fuck my heart's saying.
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I don't want to lose a good friend :( *cries* [23 Jan 2004|07:10pm]

[ mood | lonely ]

I gave the guy I like at school a birthday card because i'm his friend and it was his birthday. Now i feel like he's avoiding me. What should I do. please help me out.

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Please Help Me [07 Jan 2004|04:50pm]

[ mood | restless ]

In 27 days its Bob's Birthday and I don't know if I should get him a gift or not. I mean we're good friends and everything. My friend at school said i should get him a gift but I don't know, and even if I was to get him a gift I don't know what he wants. Please help me cuz I need all the help I can get.

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I need help [05 Jan 2004|07:51pm]

[ mood | confused ]

There's this guy I like, i'll call him Bob, and I think he might like me too but its hard to tell. You see me and my friend were on line and talking to him and I told him that I couldn't wait till Sunday, because I see him most every Sunday at church, I didn't mean to. I thought that I was talking to some one else cuz I don't normally talk to him that much. So anyway some how he was told that it was about him and so he wanted to know all about it so he told me to leave so he could talk to my friend.lol. I didn't leave and then he had to go, so he left. The next day I told him the reason that I couldn't wait for Sunday was because I got to see people that I only got to see on Sunday because they go to diff schools. So then he asked what about him and I told him that he was one of those friends and he wouldn't talk to me for a really long time and I had to start the conversation. I don't know what I should do?

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